The truth won’t work on someone who WON’T examine themselves or accept feedback. PASSIVE AGGRESSION: Irritating others by getting them to count on us then not coming through while fooling ourselves by believing that we have good intentions and are actually unusually loving, kind, gentle, patient, faithful, peaceful. We cause others to count on us […]
You know that I have always been excited about the power of words to help people. What is true? What works? One of the puzzles over the years have been people who are great at memorizing the truth and spotting it’s practical application for others and unable to use it themselves. Patients with the diagnoses of borderline personality […]
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REJOICE IN THE OTHER’S GIFTS
I remember a teacher who was asked to do a class at a seminar. The main speaker would talk then people could break up and go to smaller classes. The seminar made the mistake of asking the main guy to do an elective class and so no one showed up to the teacher’s class. He […]
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OUR TREMENDOUS LOVER
What is the proper focus for a christian? REMAIN IN HIS LOVE Some churches emphasize the Bible, studying it preaching it memorizing it, others emphasize singing and praise, others urge to go witnessing, others encourage a life of holiness, others the need to rest in grace. I think that all these and other things of […]
We often use pat phrases that sound good but leave the serious followers of Jesus feeling confused and vaguely guilty. They have no clue what these phrases mean or how they are to apply them to their lives. For example: lean on Jesus, trust in him, rest in grace, or listen to the still small […]
LOVE AND LIKE ARE BOTH IMPORTANT When Peter betrayed Jesus and three times he said that he did not know him, the Lord came to him and asked him if he loved (agapao) him. Peter said, “you know that I like you (phileo) . Do you agapao me? “you know that I phileo you” Do […]
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BE REAL
I take a look at the world around me, starting with the tip of my own nose. That, and everything else I see will cease to exist in a blinding flash of intense heat. Considering that, what should my priorities be? 2 peter 3:10 But the day of the Lord will come as a thief […]
I’m a severe co-dependent, I don’t want to be a burden, so I don’t share with the ones who love me, which makes me an even bigger burden because they wonder how I am doing and feel helpless to help. Instead of not sharing I should help them help us. Of course this would take […]
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Godly Apologies
Go to psalms 51 and to the story of the faithful father in the new testament in Luke 15,11-32. Study these examples of repentance and you will come out with something like the following tool. When I sin: 1God is the one sinned against. 2. I “shoot myself in the foot” and am the one […]
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I SEE YOU
What a gift it is to be seen by friends and family! Too often we are so preoccupied with our media or own thoughts that we do not really LOOK at the people around us. Matthew 13:13 This is why I speak to them in parables: “Though seeing, they do not see; though hearing, they […]
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